Pastor Wife; My Oft Forgotten Friend

So I found out yesterday that it's Pastor's Wife Appreciation Month. Nice time to find out.  There are only a few days left in the month.

My wish would be to meet up with all of the fellow pastor's wives in my life for a sno cone or Mexican food or better yet a weekend getaway. There's something encouraging about spending time with them. But strangely, I rarely get the opportunity to hang out with this group of trusted friends. 

From one minister's wife to another-

Several of us are in different seasons of life. We're scattered in different directions doing whatever our current chapter of life is calling us to do. But one thing is for sure, every season as a pastor's wife is a busy one. Through the years we commit time to our community and/or a profession. Our schedule fluctuates according to the season. But the majority of our time and heart will always be spent on the two families God ordained for us; our husband, with maybe some kiddos......and our church family. 

Of course you're a part of that family. It's just that I take our sisterhood for granted knowing that our breed is strong enough to keep going on our own; remembering there's an unspoken connection between us. 

We wave at each other in passing. Hopefully we remember to send a birthday text or to deliver the picture frame we bought you three months ago that's still wrapped and sitting on our dresser.  Often I forget to tell you when  I've been touched by an offertory you played beautifully. I neglect to tell you about the good things I've been hearing about the Bible study you've been leading.  I don't take the time to mention how happy I am to see all those cars parked at your house on Wednesday nights for community group. And for you friends that serve in other churches? I rarely take the opportunity to listen to how your ministry is going. 

But you should know.......

I call you friend. 

You should know you're one I know I can call on when I need prayer and understanding. 

You should know I love your husband; your family.  

You're like family; a special kind of sister. 

You should know.....

-That I'm glad to be serving alongside someone who understands the irony of being surrounded by a loving church family only to find yourself at times struggling with loneliness. 

Realize that I'm grateful for the work you do. I know much of it is unseen. 

Know that I pray for you without taking the time to tell you when I see you and you look tired. .........or when I know your husband probably hasn't been home before dark several nights in a row because days of ministry rolled over into nights.  

...let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another. Hebrews 10:24

I want you to know that I'm glad to be serving alongside you, but I'd be glad to just talk, or listen, or cry or laugh with you

Or

Maybe go out for sno cones. 

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4 thoughts on “Pastor Wife; My Oft Forgotten Friend

  1. preachers kid

    So true dear Kristi--the pastors wife is often forgotten as well as the p.k.'s. Wish people could live as preachers families for awhile so they could find out how difficult it really is. Gods blessing on you and your whole family--been there, done that and it is living in a fishbowl like no other fishbowl IMO.

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    1. Kristi Burden

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      I didn't know you were a PK. It's an odd life isn't it; beautiful and messy. I'm learning so much about grace through this calling-how to receive it and how better to extend it. Thank you for the encouragement. I feel I didn't mention how good our church family is to us. Perhaps in another post.

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  2. Bebe

    Iam afraid most of us[meaning me] FORGET WHAT THE LIFE OF A PASTORS WIFE REALLY MEANS AND I THNK WE ALL OWE ALL OF YOU A SPECIAL THANKS AND A PRAYER JUST AS WE DO OUR PASTORS. THANK YOU FOR REMINDING US

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    1. Kristi Burden

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      Oh you and so many others make me feel extra appreciated! I hope it came across that I'm the one who forgets to appreciate other minister's wives walking alongside me. Love you.

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