One day when she was two years old she was playing in a garden, and she plucked another flower and ran with it to her mother. I suppose she must have looked rather delightful, for Mrs. Darling put her hand to her heart and cried, ‘Oh, why can’t you remain like this for ever!’ This was all that passed between them on the subject, but henceforth Wendy knew that she must grow up. — J.M. Barrie
Spring pictures must have arrived at pre-school this week because I've seen a host of pictures on Facebook while scrolling. In several of the pictures, some of your kids are sitting on a picture prop; one of those old yellow upright Igloo water coolers that I remember seeing on the sidelines of the football field back when. A number 2 followed by a 0,1 and 5 is painted on corrugated tin making up part of the background. Your little ones are cute. I see little boys in polos and khakis. In another picture, a girl with floral dress wears a matching yellow headband that frames a face, still with all the baby teeth. And I read the posts that go alongside them. "My baby's growing up!" And "Slow down time!"
I was you once. I had littles. And I fretted, thinking of how fast they were growing even though they were small.
It wasn't that long ago. It was hardly before yesterday. And I'm sure my mom would tell me that it was just the day before yesterday that she had me dressed up in light blue corduroy with pigtails in blue ribbons for my pictures.
For others of you who have passed the stage of "littles", that was you once too, not so long ago.... wasn't it?
Two nights ago I picked out pictures to go on Hayden's graduation announcements. I ruled out several pictures where stubble stuck out on his once smooth pudgy cheeks. I noticed how broad his jawline has gotten. Today I'm thinking about how I have few occasions left where I can boss him to do pictures where he smiles for me (and for all my friends on Facebook and abroad).
Waves of sadness have come over me in past months, but they roll back out almost just as quick. I started the boo-hoo baby stuff probably sometime close to when you started. Maybe the first time was the day he started of Kindergarten. I think I was sappy when he lost his first tooth; I know I was an emotional wreck the night of Kindergarten graduation when the speaker played
From the day we arrive on the planet
And blinking step into the sun....
Til we find our place
On the path unwinding
In the Circle
The Circle of Life
I can't clearly recall every time I've come undone with his or his sisters' growing but I've senselessly let thoughts of fleeting youth cloud too many of my days rather than cherishing the days we've been given.
A lot of soul searching has been happening these past few months. Last night I sat with a Christian speaker from Houston. Knowing I was a pastor's wife she asked me if it'd been hard moving every few years. I've been asked that question before. I knew how to answer. I told her the same thing I told the friend who asked me if I was sad when we were preparing to move to Nederland. I said
God has been good everywhere we've been.
I remember trusting when we moved in 2011 that God would be just as good in Nederland as He was in Trinity. He has been.
I have no doubt He'll be just as good in the places we're headed.
God will be good in 33 days when I hug my six-foot something boy in his cap and gown. God will be good when we unpack Hayden's belongings in a dorm room that's way farther than a stone's throw from my room. He'll be good when I no longer have IPhone finder on my phone and can't track where Hayden is when he should have been home fifteen minutes ago. God will still be good when the girls follow suit; when they drive for the first time or have their first date, and when they walk down the aisle.
In our nature we often sorrow for what is left behind. We fear what lies ahead. But there's no place in space and time where God isn't good.
I cry harder these days, but I laugh harder too. I listen to his stories more intently now knowing we're ending an important chapter. Not all the days have been sunny. We've walked through tough days and even seasons. Those are the times that have led me to love deeper than I did when he was in diapers. I can see days in the near future where I call my kids my friends. Many are the good memories. Today is good, and good are the days that lie ahead.
Time does have a way of sneaking up on us. It's true. But time gives more than it steals.
And all of time is in His hands.
Lisa
This is so good! Love the way you can describe the heart of a Mommy 🙂
It's so true...what you said about the days that lie ahead. With Andee about to wrap up her first year at college, away from home...I can assure you, yes, the days are good. They have been different and sometimes unsure, but definitely good.
The memories of the "littles" and the "teens" are good, because you DID live in those moments and cherished them. I hold all those chapters so dear to my heart and often reminisce through the photo albums and home videos. Yet, I look forward to the days my kids will be making those memories with their own spouses and kids!! More "Littles"...Ha ha!! In more ways than one.
Kristi Burden
Post authorThe only terms I could speak in were hopeful ones so it's good to hear you're testament to the goodness of the days when they're not at home anymore. So many good memories of my littles and of the Littles too!!