Being free to be ourselves can sometimes get ugly. Comfortable at home we often use our words carelessly. Being in our castle, we find ourselves inclined to lose our patience with anyone who disturbs our peace or pleasure. On the other end of the spectrum, our busyness prevents us from spending time together and enjoying one another.
Hopefully you've gotten a chance to check out:
-the Family Contract
-and just for fun The Daughter of the Year Contract
Think about starting a Lovely List (pictured above) as a family project. If the name isn't masculine enough, it could be called the Whatever List. We have started one in our family. It hangs on our refrigerator. It's basically a lined piece of paper that has Philippians 4:8 on the bottom.
...whatever is true, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable-if anything is excellent or praiseworthy-think about such things.-Philippians 4:8
If Jason or I or even the kids notice something right, lovely or admirable we write it on the list. It could be something positive that happened at school. Seeing a flower or a blue sky and being reminded of beauty in God's creation could be noted. Take notice of Your son saying thank you to his sister. Our perspective is changed a bit when we are looking for lovely things instead of things to argue about or tattle on.
OBVIOUSLY, contracts, lists or any other creative ploy to bring about harmony is useless without constant prayer on our families behalf- (I'm reminding myself).
*Please share things you are doing with your family. I'd love to hear from you!